I would agree, EXCEPT that this past week, working with my same ol t, i was able to look at my situation with my mother like from a completely different perspective. Just by pushing thru a little and talking. A breakthru. I wrote about it in trailrunners current thread of what is love.

Granites post sounds to me like she hears what her t is saying, and she (granite) is acknowledging what she (again granite) has been doing. Yeah it kinda sounds like a knockdown fight. Wrestling with her demons or whatever. But thats what it is - it IS an internal conflict. We want A and we want B. But only one of those things is under our control. We cant have both. We have to choose. Another t only delays us making the decision.

Eta - so yeah we (different pc members) are looking at different parts of the elephant.