I think along with Gracey, our mothers were separated at birth. Great job for the way you handled it and being kind enough to try to WORK on it. It is very hard. I had a little different situation with my mom but kind of the same. She had no respect for my space and my want to have a life of my own. She would make it very difficult for me to have relationships with men, as I guess she never wanted to "lose" me. She's also very co-dependent although she rationalizes it in her own mind as "caring".

Anyhew, hope things get better and KUDOS to you for demanding the respect you deserve as a person!