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Originally Posted by besidemyselvez
Logically I agree 100%. Unfortunately feelings are rarely logical.
I know I am my T's job. I know that I am not unique and that I am replaceable. I know the boundaries and the theory and the process to all of this. I have discussed it with my T many many many times but, like I said, feelings and logic don't always go together.
I know that everyone is different but I personally can't imagine spending that much time with someone in such an intimate setting and not caring.
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I am just explaining how it works for me. In general, with real people, I agree about feelings and logic not always lining up. In that sense, for me, I have the feelings because I have not figured out how to not have feelings, but try to act on the logic and hope for the best. And there are plenty of current examples of those who hold themselves out as more evolved than others who act in ways that belie that view of themselves.
It is different for me in how I deal with real people and how I deal with therapists. I believe therapists set the game up to be not real and that is how I engage with it. I do not find therapists particularly warm and engaging nor do I see it as an intimate experience for me (I am not telling others what their experience is in the least here - just talking about myself).
The conventional approach given by those guys and others to clients is to talk to them about it. Whether that is useful for a client or not, it would seem to me, depends upon the individual client.
https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy...my_therapists/