For me personally it helps a lot if I separate me as a conscious being from the strange desires and reactions of my subconscious. Then I can inspect my subconscious in more neutral manner without feeling ashamed of it or identifying myself with it. This leads to greater sense of freedom and ability to open up to a partner and talk about this. We all have some quirks and "strange subconscious desires" that sometimes don't make much sense even to ourselves, but it's just that - subconscious desire to "play games". So, you can let it play in safe environment and see how it goes. Another thing is that subconsciousness likes mysteries, and sometimes being so open about something makes the mystery go away, thus the desires can also fade.