NP: I once had a T tell me that when our emotions seem out of proportion to the event, it is a sign that we are triggered: aka, this is reminding us of something that happened in the past, and we are partially reacting to that as well.
a perfect example for me just happened last night. i had a really tough week, and e-mailed AND called my T (in which she wrote an e-mail in response to my phone call), which was more than usual. i randomly checked my e-mail late last night to see that she wrote me. i was all like "Awww, that was sweet of T to write when she didn't have to!" The first part was fine, checking in on me...etc.
At the end she was like "PS: i need to cancel monday's session. hope we can talk on the phone during your lunch break one day."
I spiraled wayyyy down. I was furious at T. I contemplated quitting therapy. I had SUI thoughts. I literally slept all day today.
Part of it was alcohol-related, but I clearly was triggered. I haven't fully figured out why, yet. But i would say my emotions were over the top compared to what happened. That only means that her cancelling in such a seeminly cavalier way hurt me way deeper than just a cancellation, because those have happened and it sucks, but has never been a big deal.
maybe that is what your T meant?
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