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Originally Posted by ruh roh
A couple other posts have me wondering if therapists put more effort into getting people to end bad relationships than they do in trying to find or build good ones? In my experience, they focus a lot on who I need to distance myself from (family) but when it comes to finding new people, they seem to want me to find contentment as a loner. I get really frustrated with my therapist and have told her I think she has a lower standards for me than for herself, which she denies, but the fact is she has a rich, full life with people in it and I have just myself, a dog and a house. I do think that many therapists seem to feel it's good enough for people like me to just accept a lower quality of social life, as though accepting a minimal life is a worthy goal. It feels discriminatory to me.
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My T is always encouraging me to go out to things, be more open with my current friends, and reach out to people for help. She has to be careful about how hard she pushes because it's easy for me to feel like she's trying to get rid of me or saying I rely on her too much, but I definitely think she encourages me to have stronger relationships. She hasn't expressed an opinion about ending the most toxic relationship in my life, but I have found that I'm less interested in having contact with that person the more I spend time with people who care about me and are nice to me.