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Originally Posted by ruh roh
A couple other posts have me wondering if therapists put more effort into getting people to end bad relationships than they do in trying to find or build good ones? In my experience, they focus a lot on who I need to distance myself from (family) but when it comes to finding new people, they seem to want me to find contentment as a loner. I get really frustrated with my therapist and have told her I think she has a lower standards for me than for herself, which she denies, but the fact is she has a rich, full life with people in it and I have just myself, a dog and a house. I do think that many therapists seem to feel it's good enough for people like me to just accept a lower quality of social life, as though accepting a minimal life is a worthy goal. It feels discriminatory to me.
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If it helps you feel better, Blondie’s attempts at consolation are even worse — she tells me things like how apparently I have “good language skills”, “(am) not socially awkward” (although I’ve told her she hasn’t seen my awkwardness) and that I’m “putting myself out there” (my taking woodwork classes).
Meanwhile, she also asked me if I wanted to see her three times a week.
The nice thing is I don’t envy her coz it doesn’t sound like she actually likes a whole lot of people she supposedly hangs out with (husband’s family, neighbors, tennis partners etc). There’s always a bit of a pause before she catches herself and says “they’re lovely people”.