ooooh---that is definitely going on my Kindle. I have a lot of up close and personal experiences with Zainichi (ethnic Korean) students in Japan. It plays out in really surprising ways.

I do think what may appear as less discriminating attitudes may be a reflection of a willingness to take people as they are, accepting ambivalence, and not expecting people to fulfill needs they can't fulfill. I think it's natural from infant days when it's strongest, to weakening with maturity, to seek everything from everybody--but that's not realistic. So over time, that recognition grows as the pressure of needs lessens.