I don't speak to half of my extended family and I don't have any regrets whatsoever. My parents broke off contact with my grandmother when I was 11yo after she went one step too far. Honestly, she'd done a lot of psychological damage by then and it took me many, many years to untangle myself from the toxic beliefs about myself that she'd made me believe, so I wish that my parents had done it years before. She reached out to me when I was 18yo, but I had no interest in putting myself through that again, and she died last summer and I had no regrets about it at all. The rest, I cut off myself as a teenager and young adult because they were too similar to my grandmother and, again, no regrets. Some people that I have spoken to about it though thought I was cruel/callous to have no regrets/not care when she died, but that's because they have no understanding of what she was truly like, and they think that her being biologically related somehow means I have to put up with abuse?? Well, IMO that's BS!

There are also people in my life, not just family, that I have had to set boundaries with regarding what I will discuss with them and how frequently I will talk to them. That's still a work in progress. I don't want to cut them out completely, maybe I will at some future point, idk, so I'm trying to enforce boundaries. Mostly, I need to be firmer and not feel bad and cave in to what others want, but that's an assertiveness issue that I'm trying to work on.

You need to do whatever is best for you and your daughter, regardless of what others think

*Willow*