Thanks everyone. I am thinking sex with a woman has to remain off the table, firstly, because I don't think either of us are built for opening our marriage like that, and second, I am not sure I would be interested without an emotional connection. That would **** up my relationship. Maaaybe my husband could be convinced he is ok with it but holy crap I've held off telling him for ages!! Still worth discussing? I just don't see this situation changing and I don't want my therapist to wonder why I bothered mentioning it. I'll think about it some more. I think part of me will be relieved just to get it off my chest at least. That's a legit reason to talk about it isn't it?