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Originally Posted by SeekerSeeking
Ken1538,
Sounds like you have given this a lot of thought and effort. That’s a good thing. However, Jessica may not be the best person to build your social skills with—she may just have issues of her own. Maybe you remind her of someone…who knows?
So other than not trying to engage much with her—you could take the direct approach, and sometime when it’s just you two say, “I feel our conversations are strained sometimes. Am I doing something to make you uncomfortable?” If she has an answer, great==you can work on it. If she doesn’t perhaps she doesn’t know or cannot say—either way—again, she’s not the girl to learn social skills on. Not everyone is—there will be folks that you click with and folks you don’t—you’ve given it lots of effort and thought. It may be time to just hand it up.
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I certainly have issues of my own but I agree that Jessica does have some issues of her own based on my experience of working with her over the past 5 months. I might remind of someone that annoys her. I don't usually irritate people when I ask them questions because I'm a good listener and I'm generally interested in what people have to say. However, as I explained above, maybe I'm missing cues that Jessica doesn't want to talk about certain things and need to back off the questions at that point. Maybe Jessica is someone I won't click with. I guess I will find out as I continue working with her.