Your husband has a problem, you do not! He's not going to change or, if he does, that is your "reward". He can sulk all he wants, that can't "hurt" you! His minimizing your complaints is bad behavior on his part. You aren't "hurt" you are angry. He is disrespecting you and his marriage vows. He can clean up his act or you cannot stay and play with him. If he doesn't do his portion to hold up the whole, the marriage, you have to leave or your will become horribly depressed. Your choice. He is not in charge of healing you, only you can do that by staying true to yourself.