When I want someone to pay me back, I want them to do what they haven't done? My husband didn't pay any attention to me when I was complaining because I couldn't get online (our wireless network is through his upstairs desktop computer; we both have upstairs desktop computers and downstairs laptops and he was busy playing his submarine game on his laptop when my laptop wouldn't go online :-) so I eventually went to bed without even saying goodnight and the next morning he was all lovey dovey and talking about his "girlfriend" and I replied that his girlfriend was pissed because her internet didn't work. He decided it behooved him to get up and fix it :-) That's all I wanted, my Internet to work!

It hurts when he doesn't pay attention but when he "fixes" that eventually, gets around to paying attention and does what I wanted in the first place, whether personally, to me, or some "chore" I wanted him to do, that he does it, I don't need anything "extra" from him. But my husband doesn't ignore me often, I may feel I do even less for him than he does for me, haven't thought about it. He makes breakfast, does dishes, does the bookkeeping/financial investing/worrying, takes me out to eat if I don't feel like cooking (tonight) and generally does whatever I ask him too so I guess I don't often feel hurt by him.