Hi, just my two cents. I have the same sort of experiences with my fiance. It was always about controlling what I do. I remember once he made Tacos, and I wanted to eat the meat and mix it with rice rather than having it in shells.

He likened it to "well would you just make a pizza and eat only the cheese"? He said I could eat it like that, but he would NEVER make them again because I ate it like that.

It's about controlling your partner and making them feel poorly for certain decisions. There is nothing wrong with having a preference. They want to make you feel like there is a problem to control you and make you feel poorly.