An email. My finger is hovering over the send button:

I know I couldn't really answer you at the end of the session when you tried to ascertain whether both parts were satisfied with what you'd said.

But almost immediately upon leaving, I have realised, the part of me that liked being given the jasper (this is absolutely a part that Janina Fisher would call an 'attach' part) is upset. Because you suggested that I give it back - an offer calculated to appease the other part (probably 'fight' part), but what about her?

Then it doesn't feel like you heard both parts equally at all, and that is what she was afraid of.

She doesn't want you to be intimidated by the suspicion and anger of the fight part and therefore back away.

I think the reason that she was more present at the end of the session is that she answered your suggestion - you brought her into the room with it. Because she was threatened by it. In fact upon reflection I can see her in the way that I responded - I was childlike in my rejection of the idea.

...and like I said, that kind of offer is too late for the fight part. In fact - it's possible that it just makes her even more suspicious. Hah!

There's also a part that feels a lot of shame about the whole thing. There's always a part feeling deeply ashamed of herself.

I feel so confused. I hate feeling violently conflicting things (even though it's so common for me) and I feel sorry for you because maybe there's really no way of making all the parts feel equally heard.

Uuuuurrrgggghhhhhhhh.