I know I made a misstep by PM'ing a new member about a custom here -- I really don't like to think of them as rules. I have to agree that it wasn't my place (BTW -- this is Wants2Fly, not a new member, haven't ironed out a login problem on a temporary backup computer.)

I haven't been here near so long as many -- but I did come to think of it as a safe place to be. I'm really sorry that I may have inadvertently caused someone to feel "not safe" here.

However, I have been very disturbed by posts that go beyond anger, to pure rage. And seeming willful determination to tear down anyone who disagrees in ugly ways, with nasty language. I just try to keep in mind that others who come here may be as desperate and disturbed as I have been/can be. And to ignore posts if someone triggers me too much. I can't come here to face ugliness.

Thanks for bringing this up, 1Day