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Originally Posted by TheSadGirl
I've known my friend since high school (20 years). We hated each other back then. High school drama and all that. My husband also went to high school with me and was friends with this friend. After our first child was born he set up coffee with me and her and we hit it off. We became very best friends. I had my 3rd child on her birthday and she spent the evening in the hospital with me. I was there when she was battling cancer. We've laughed and cried together. She is more than a friend, she is family.
The last couple years have been rough as she has a lot going on and I've been struggling badly with my mental health. I was on the psych ward back in sept/Oct and she visited me once. I haven't seen her since. I texted her merry Christmas and she said it back. We haven't spoken at all since. Not even interacting on Facebook.
I have borderline personality disorder. I am working with a therapist to manage my thoughts an emotions. I was hurt so I sent her a text saying I missed her and asking if we were still friends or if she had moved on. I got zero response for 24 hours so I sent her a Facebook message asking if she got my text. She said she did, she was busy and she can't use her phone at work but she would send me a message later.
It's been 3 days since the first message. Reverse the situation and there is no way I would let one of my friends go 3 days feeling uncertain about our friendship.
So I know I have BPD. I know I'm extremely emotional. I know I have abandonment issues and I react strongly from hurt. So I'm asking for your opinion. What would you do in my shoes?
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I would see if she is really still a very good friend. It sounds almost as if she just abandoned you due to you going through a rough times. I would try contacting her maybe one or two more times and then that's it. Given that you guys used to hate each other, it is possible that she reverted back to her old ways. I hope not but who knows. I had a friend do this to me. She didn't like me at first. She denied it but her actions said it all. It was so obvious through her actions that if she had just simply said she didn't like me, I would not have been surprised. But then we seemed to have become good friends. But then, as you may have guessed from my previous posts in the past, she just cut me off. I wonder if your friend did the same kind of thing. I hope not but it sounds that way. :/
