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Old May 08, 2018, 11:54 AM
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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006 View Post
To be honest, I don't think that's the case at all. In fact I think most people including myself really do have preferences but are not consciously aware of what they are. I mean it's not judgmental it's wise to know what expectations you have of things, and to make decisions based on them.
I just wrote a personal ad, not to post - I'm not interested in seeing anyone, but to get to know myself better - to make myself consciously aware of what my preferences are. It took me two weeks to reach any level of satisfaction with the exercise and it still has a long way to go.

I wanted to keep it positive, but I found that no matter how I worded the qualities I found attractive, someone could believe they had those qualities even if I would disagree vehemently. Turns out, I couldn't manage putting anything together without listing negatives I didn't want in a person.
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