This behavior is totally uncharacteristic. Sometimes we have gone a while without talking, but one text or call and we pick up right where we left off. No big deal. Last year we were doing regular dinners out together and such. Then I broke down and was hospitalized. While she did visit me in the hospital it was very apparent that she does not understand. Nor has she shown any attempt at understanding (I was diagnosed with borderline in the hospital and bipolar the year before).

I know she is busy because she works full time and has a child. It's not about contact, it's about knowing how that goes. I do not think this is a BPD reaction. I asked my husband who also is friends with her and he agreed with me. He even offered to contact her and ask her about what's going on, but I declined. I do not want issues between her and I to interfere with their relationship.

I reached out to her twice. She told me she was busy. I suppressed my BPD reactions through skills learned in therapy. I am uber proud of that and to be growing as a person. In the end I blocked her on facebook at my phone because that is what I felt I needed to do. I'm very hurt but I don't want to hurt her and I don't want to see her logging onto facebook 10 times a day while shes "too busy" to tell me if she wants to be my friend.

I don't know if its done for ever or just on pause. I'll have to see how it plays out. If she wants to reach me, she most definitely can. Otherwise it is what it is. So many years of great memories. I remember when she was diagnosed with cancer. I went to the doctors appointment with her and grilled her doctor. We left and went to mcdonalds. It was what she needed. We laughed and we cried. I told her if she had to shave her head I would shave mine too and I meant it. I love her like family and I will always be here if she changes her mind.