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Old May 08, 2018, 03:35 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. Yes, I agree itīs important to grieve or to express things that are sad. I just donīt want it to be like crying is the main ingredient in sessions and after a while the T gets so used to it, itīs like you didnīt cry if you know what I mean?

I want the crying to really symbolise hard stuff and not be something I turn to more or less every time. Itīs a bit like when I didnīt cry at all, then I felt I was too emotionally withheld and now it might be the other way. Perhaps this is just something I imagine to happen but I want my T to know that when I cry itīs not just to for whatever but for something deep, important and difficult that happened to me.

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Originally Posted by satsuma View Post
I went through a phase like this as well, Sarah. I hardly ever cried in the first few years of seeing my T, then I went through a phase when I cried a lot, with T and also at home. I think I was going through a time of grieving. I had two bereavements in my close family, but as well as that grieving for other things from the past.

Someone once said to me "Don't be afraid if you cry a lot, those tears are healing", and I think I can look back and say that was definitely true. So although it's a sad phase to go through, I think it might be a good sign as you are grieving over certain things and it's an important stage to go through.