I don’t understand why talking about him to another therapist is ratting him out. You don’t have to give a name or identifying details.
I’ve spoken with therapists about previous therapists and their mistakes and the damage they did me. It’s been helpful. I either didn’t give names or I used only a first name. I didn’t feel I was ratting anyone out, and none of the therapists I spoke to thought so either—apparently it’s pretty common.
Loyalty is great and a commendable characteristic. But sometimes people have to put themselves above their loyalties. I had to do that when I left my abusive ex.
I am glad you feel better now.
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