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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark
I've stifled my orientation and gender so long I have no clue who or what I am. I tell others, "I like who I like and I dress according to how I feel that day." I really don't know who I am because I try so hard to please my family. My parents are accepting but my grandparents aren't...they are very black and white ultra-conservative and I don't think they could tolerate me as being anyting other than pursuing men and dressing feminine. I don't know if I could ever come out to them, but I have been living with them since October and will be living with them until we move in October.
Do my grandparents need to know I am neither straight nor feminine? I feel that I can't, I'm afraid they'll never look at me the same. But I also feel there will be a sense of freedom if I do come out to them.
Also, since I am so confused about who I really am...how do I go about finding out? How do I come out of the closet and explore my sexuality and gender preferences? Where do I even begin?
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you dont necessarily need to come out of the closet. i know lots of people who are exploring their sexuality and gender without coming out of the closet. with todays ways where clothing is now neither strictly male or female, and its just as ok for women and men to do the same things their opposite gendered person can do, heck even getting licenses and state ID's now do not always ask a person to designate a gender or sexual orientation, schools now have bathrooms that can be used either or and when they dont they do have a separate bathroom designated family, male/female on the door placque....
my point is, that with how things are today no one is going to know your sexuality or your gender by your clothing or who you hang out with.
just be your self and some day when you are ready to tell your family you will know when the time is right. how will you know its the right time.... it will feel right to you and you will no longer care whether someone will have a problem with it. you will just naturally do whats right for you.