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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I think you are misreading Jessica’s discomfort around you as social anxiety. She may have gotten the hint that you like her or that you seem over-eager in getting to know her, and she is acting nervous because it makes her uncomfortable. A reason her mouth could have been shaking is because she was unexpectedly alone with you (a male) late at night at work. Or she was simply startled because she didn’t realize you were there. For whatever reason, she feels uncomfortable around you and is sending you a lot of signals that she doesn’t wasn’t to answer your questions. Maybe you could practice socializing with people who seem more receptive than she does?
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That is definitely possible that Jessica was nervous that night because she was alone in that room with me. I will note that the room that she works on computers in is not actually sealed off. The room doesn't have any doors and is simply positioned behind the customer service department. There was another guy working in customer service that night who was close enough to easily hear our conversation. Jessica was initially nervous but she still decided to have a conversation with me that night. When I asked her how she was she told me she was alright and then proceeded to tell me that she had just gotten over a cold from visiting a video game convention. We talked for a few minutes and then I had to leave to finish my vacuuming. Prior to this, Jessica did display what I perceived as signs of anxiety. Literally every time Jessica came through my checkout line after our first interaction, she seemed a little nervous and her voice was always a little bit shakey. I will also once again bring up how Jessica walked up to me and my coworker while we were talking, said "I'm bored", paused, then said "okay" and walked away. During these times, there really was no reason for Jessica to feel uncomfortable around me because our interactions were limited at this time and I had not yet developed feelings for her or gone out of my way to get her attention.
I know Jessica didn't seem to want to answer my questions the day she was in the break room playing video games but she doesn't appear to be completely trying to avoid me. A few weeks before this break room incident, I my shift had ended and I walked to the exit door to have my coat checked by security (standard procedure). As I was talking to the security person, there was initialy no one else standing with us, then I turned my head and saw Jessica standing right next to me when she had not been there the second before. It was snowing pretty heavy and she was looking through door to see the snow. When I left that day, it had already been snowing heavily for a good hour and I just found it interesting that Jessica decided to come to the front of the store to see the snow when I was leaving. Part of me wants to see she did this because she wanted to see me before I left but I could be completely wrong and I can't know for sure. Also, I didn't mention some things about the break room incident. Initially, I didn't ask Jessica about the convention. She was playing Mario Kart 8 on the Switch and I mentioned that I had Mario Kart 8. Then I started talking about Switch games I own and upcoming games I'm excited about for the Switch and Jessica did engage in the conversation a bit. She told me about some upcoming games she was looking forward to and how she also has Mario Kart 8 for Wii U. When I asked her about the video game convention she jokingly said "it was lit". It was after this that I asked her if there were any highlights and then she said there weren't. Then I asked her what kinds of things there are to do at the video game convention she was at and she talked about a few different panels that were held there. I asked one or two more questions about things to do at the convention and then she seemed to get irritated. I mention all of this because it wasn't like I entered the break room, said "any highlights at the video game convention?" and then she said "no" and that was it. There was some conversation and some of it was friendly.
Before she left for the video game convention, she came through my cash out line to purchase some food and told me she was excited to go to the convention and she her family. The convention was in her home town. More recently I was talking with someone in her department whose name is Matt, about the new Avengers movie and Jessica was nearby and asked what we were talking about. A few days ago, I entered the break room and saw Matt at the vending machine. Jessica entered a second later and they started talking about his smart watch. I asked if it was a Fitbit watch and Jessica told me it was an Apple watch that Matt was given as part of his position at the store. I know this is a lot of writing, but I'm just using these as examples that Jessica doesn't want to completely avoid me. Jessica seems to be willing to join the conversation if I'm talking to someone else she knows at the store.
All that said, I agree that for whatever reason, Jessica feels uncomfortable around me. I think I might irritate her sometimes but I don't think she dislikes me as a person and I don't think she is trying to avoid me at all costs or anything like that. I will be friendly but keep more of a distance with her. If she wants to get to know me better then great, if she doesn't, oh well.