I really can’t thank you guys enough for all your responses. You all raise excellent points, some I was aware of and some that I wasn’t. There’s a little truth to all of your comments. I could list numerous particulars concerning our relationship. But it all doesn’t seem to matter because she states her reasons as physical and that’s the end of discussion. I can’t even broach the subject without nothing more than a dirty look. I think couples therapy is needed so bad but she won’t go. It’s starting to mess with my self esteem because I feel, well maybe it’s me ? Maybe I just can’t turn her on anymore. I feel that the “ love” is not there and the only reason we’re together is financial or just for companionship.
Is that what it all boils down to in the end ? I mean if we were in our 90s I could understand. My point is this. I feel that if this situation was reversed and she needed physical affection or whatever, I would do it took to make her feel loved.
I can’t feel good unless I can make her feel good. I feel like all I do is give , give , and give some more , only to be rejected and ignored emotionally and physically. I’m seriously depressed over this issue. And I’m very conflicted about it. I’ve invested a lot of time , money , and emotional currency into this “relationship “. She has many other good qualities. Should this be a deal breaker ? Again , thank you all for your input. You have given me much food for thought.