I think this is why Melania Trump never says anything, but avoids holding trumps hand. Its HIS way or the highway. I get the feeling your h is (and many many others are) the same way. Society and religion and government etc support it.

Eta - the way out is kinda like in the old movies - you step out of your old role and place in society. Its a huge step.

Eta - at least, this is the way it feels with me and my family. Im the outcast, everybody else is married with children.