Nemii.....from one abused woman to another. Please get out and take your children.

This man is not safe. This man is not kind. This man gets off on control, power, possessiveness, and ownership. He is not the man you think you know. He will not change. He will not stop. It is not a phase. It will get worse.

No one can tell you what to do. And no matter how many times people tell you what you should do, nothing will change until you understand in your heart that is something is very wrong with your situation and you deserve better. It took me nearly 13 years.

Please don't let it take you that long. It will not get better. The abuse will continue. Your children will see it, and they will hurt, and they will not understand that it's not okay for their mommy to be treated that way. It will affect how they view themselves and romantic relationships for many, many years.

Please save yourself and your children.

EDIT: I would like to add that you can call the Domestic Violence hotline at any moment. They will talk you through what to do. They will help you get out with your children. They will help you find a safe place to live, away from this man that has mistreated you so much.