A lot of women are overweight now and there are, fortunately, lots of resources available, from Instagram for plus size women to Gwynnie Bee clothing rental to brick-and-mortar stores such as Torrid where even shop attendants are big. Look around - the more you see happy, gorgeous, smiling plus size women out there, the easier it would be for you to perceive your own self as good looking. Spend some time doing that until you internalize the positivity, and do not think about the men's issue for now, but revisit it only after your body image becomes positive - and your wardrobe, colorful and vibrant.