I tend to get into relationships where men were likely to either cheat on me or cheat on their partner with me. I find that it's my eagerness to please and not listening to my own instincts. There were red flags that I overlooked simply because I loved the guy and wanted him to love me. And being in a relationship, even if it was a ****** one, filled a void.

If you dont mind me asking, how do you find the guys you date?

Something to make clear: Poly relationships (or any relationship, for that matter) isn't founded on lying or you being made to feel like a secret or inferior to the other partner.