I have gained weight on meds, and, the weight is on my belly. I in general find large women beautiful, but only so long as they have pronounced waistlines, and I do not. I find that it is giving me a lot of insecurity in sex, probably because I received highly negative feedback from two men in the past who were both very important to me (and I to them). The thing is, there are new men out there who do not seem to be bothered at all, but I still am. To reiterate, I am only insecure because I have belly fat - I am not bothered by ample thighs, say, and actually find them sexy. Maybe I should look into underwear such as camisoles that hide this area?