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Originally Posted by ohmydaisy
I've lost grandparents due to old age, it was sad, but expected. It's understood as a normal part of life.
Whereas, my brother was killed by a driver as he was crossing the street, was unexpected. Still trying to process it a couple of years later. It's more difficult. There was so much I wanted to say and experience with him. He was only 24.
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But would you rather have had your 24-year-old brother be diagnosed with cancer and have a miserable, lingering death just so you could say goodbye? Or have had the car crash result in him being massively injured and lingering in a painful state for months or years so that you had the chance to say goodbye? I doubt that you would have wanted that for either of you.
Maybe if you can look at it that way, it will help you deal with the loss.