It's not learning from experience that your gut feelings & intuituon need to be placed first in your prioruties to listen to.

I saw red flags before my wedding at age 21. Between talking with my mom & doing my own rationalizing away of those red flags I went ahead & got married. Stayed in a miserable relationship for 33 years & finally got out because those red flags grew into volcanoes by the end. Yiu can bettcha that if I ever were to get interested in someone any red flags or intuition WILL BE LISTENED TO. It actually takes mindfulness to listen to those things instead of just ALLOWING our emotional to take over. Mindfulness is listening to both logical mind & emotional mind & seeing the big picture before making any decisions one way or the other.....think it may serve you well to learn this skill.