Couldn't care less. Too old to be living my life for someone else.

But if I had when younger, I still wouldn't.

I *might* have cared a bit about my dad, only because his kids (that grew up with him) were set up for and achieved success, as did he. But I wasn't a part of that and we really haven't had much contact, so no worries, no (known/expressed) expectations.

My mother? HA! Couldn't give a rat's ***. She's a bigger mess than me and therefore has no right to glorious expectations of me. My sister produced those, so she can revel vicariously through her, lol. I totally get along with my sister -- and am glad she took the load, because I went no contact with my mother years ago. So toxic.