My heart hurts for you and your daughter and even a little for him- not condoning his behavior in the least, just that he is a sick addicted person.
I have worked in substance abuse. Even if you have a place to go please contact a women's shelter to make a safety plan and get as educated as you can. That way you can make the most informed decisions going forward. That must have been terrifying for both you and your daughter. I haven't known an addict who hasn't lied about his intentions. Addicts lie. It's just who they become.

You and your daughter deserve to feel safe and right now with all that has transpired it is not safe with him. If you can't do this for you, do it for your daughter. She nor you can ever " unsee" that incident in the car.

Please know you are on my prayer list. I don't know who you are, but I believe my higher power knows.