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Originally Posted by emptynightmare
I am less curious about things
I can't read very well
I'm sloppy
recently the unattractive effects of anhedonia--or rather the inability to have interests--have been hard to hide
I must hold myself to a higher standard. I have been trying to raise my standards for myself recently
I hope for my higher standards to include:
-a fight to win attitude
-better indulgence of my hobbies so that I can follow my curiosity without feeling like killing myself
-ability to identify and follow passion
-less sloppy appearance
-cheerful and engaging attitude at work
in my opinion, if I just get a little more lust for life, and follow my curiosity to gain knowledge and experience, the effects of depression and failure will lessen
is this something therapy could help with, or just me? I'm curious what people actually ask their therapists about because every problem I have just seems like a self-solve situation
can I ask a therapist to help with these practical effects on my abilities to appear as a normal person?
can I literally say, "I have to perform to this standard (my own standard or that of my work) -- can you help me with reading or trying to be more curious again, or to work on social skills in the work place?"
can I say that I'm having problems exploring my interest in music because I am inhibited?
can I ask them to help me identify situations where I am feeling curious and how to follow through on the curiosity?
I just feel like most of it are things I should just work harder on or just get over. Has a therapist ever even helped anyone on any of these problems?
I don't want therapy to be unfocused. I don't want to recount every moment of my childhood. That is a waste of my time and depresses me. I don't want to be in therapy for years.
Ultimately my problem with therapy is this. I think that therapy is, in the end, self driven, but I don't know exactly where to "drive it". So it ends up being a waste of time with the therapist just kind of going in circles and not proposing any solutions.
I feel that I have to come up with the solution myself.
So please, I would love to hear any situations where a therapist helped in a practical manner, rather than just talking about the past in a roundabout manner.
(posted this in depression forum as well just to cover my bases)
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You may not
read well, but you
write well. Your message is organised and not sloppy at all. As you got that of the equation wrong, I’m betting that your self-assessment might also be wrong. I’m not certain that you’re depressed so much as looking as a structure for your goals. You’ve asked questions — and supplied answers for — about who you want to be.
It’s okay to print your message and take it to an MD/shrink or PhD/psychologist. One should be able to tell you if they’ll take your type of case or not..
I ran out of ‘practical manners’ years ago. I am physically weak, elderly, white-haired and rickety and sick. Sick from conditions, illnesses and disorders. I’m having ‘spells’ again — blackouts which are being noticed by the only two people whom I converse with weekly — and my blood pressure suddenly drops and I’ve wiggling-heart-dizziness when I sit up.
Sadly, I know where my symptoms call, so close that my breath reeks ‘love me, love me, please love me.’
It seems to me that we want all those things, but, mostly, love.
People write here about problems with their therapist and the biggest seems to be — or involves — that these people suffer from a need to feel loved.
I can’t say that this comes a shock, really. I think that I’ve long-believed that love seemed the solution to most of our questions. We don’t want to be lonely or feel out-of-place. Maybe this isn’t the the time to bring this up. I think that this might be more than I can take.
I can steer everything about you back to me and play, bluff, go down.
If I were you, I would double dare-dare Henry V of England to a wrestling-match and you, of course, let him win for you can’t beat the man.
Print your note and show it around.