Greetings.

After almost 20 years, my wife just told me she wants to call it quits. Not at all happy about it. She's beautiful, smart, funny, a good mom to our kids, etc. I have no desire to ever be away from her, but that's where she's at.

So here's the deal: I'm a passive aggressive. I've read about what makes up a PS person and there's simply no denying it, the description fits me perfectly.

However, in my defense, I find this the easier path sometimes. In my opinion, I can't really have an opinion, w/o my wife screaming and cussing. In many cases it just doesn't seem worth it to me to speak my mind -- I simply want to keep the peace.

Now I know that even this in itself is typical P/A behavior. To simply keep an opinion to oneself then punish the partner. But I'm not sure what else I can possibly do if I want to keep my wife from losing her crap.

If this is to continue, what do we do different? I didn't want to give her my opinion tonight b/c I knew it would cause issues and she pressed for it. As predicted, she lost it, now we're here.

We love each other a lot, but are tired of these issues.

What to do? I'm willing to shoulder all responsibility and change my part in this, but am lost.