I recently had to deal with someone who never understood my relationship that ended and that I was grieving for.

I knew she didn't and that was ok.

But when I told her it had ended and I was grieving and in pain she told me to stop grieving; it wasn't a real relationship anyway. (it was online and the person was like a mother and therapist to me). She said the person wasn't real, was just words on a computer screen.

I was so offended after attempting to just tell her about my feelings, I just "hung up" (we were on IM). She emailed me with no understanding. I said that it didn't matter whether she understood the relationship; I didn't want to be judged and to be told when and how to grieve. That my telling her that I was in pain I thought would be enough for her to related, understand that part of it.

Still completely missing it, she's now offended because no one has ever called her judgemental in her life.

.. sigh...