I terminated with my harmful ex-T a little less than a year ago, but I’m in a similar place with how I feel like I need closure. I want to reach out to her and get that closure, but I know that I’m never going to get the closure that I need by doing that. So I’ve resisted the temptation thus far. One thing that has helped me let go of some of the pain she has caused me is going through the forgiveness process. Holding onto pain and anger doesn’t get you much, and as my T says, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness doesn’t absolve them of any of their wrongdoings, it’s soleley a process for you to gain some internal peace about it all. I would say I’m at the point where I’m not angry anymore, but still fairly hurt at times.