Yes, the pain does go away after a few years. My former T of ten years and I had a rupture that never truly healed. I tried everything to get our therapeutic relationship back to where it once was. He didn't officially terminate me but made it more difficult for me to get an appointment and wasn't really invested while in session. We didn't have a good-bye session. I found another therapist where I processed some of it. Then, I gave up on therapy and decided to be more accepting of my situation and just live my life.

I think that it was easier for me to heal because I did not contact my former T in any manner. I realized that I couldn't say enough or ask enough questions to make our termination okay. He was never going to own what I needed him to own. I was angry and hurt. The hurt felt like it would last forever but it didn't. Today, I see him and therapy, more realistically. I remember him fondly but also recognize that he wasn't necessarily the type of therapist that I needed. He still helped me immensely and I am grateful. Occasionally, I think about finding a reason to see him but I won't. Sometimes you cannot go back home again.