Yes there r men out there that do not care about body shapes as some others do. They make you feel sexy not only in your skin but also in your mind. Find them!! Lol.
So if you’re self conscious maybe find something that accentuates your positives in the bedroom attire area. Maybe a teddy? There’s just so much out there that hopefully you’ll find something that makes you comfortable & sexy.
I’d also be very upfront about this insecurity so a potential partner doesn’t off handedly make a smart comment that can potentially hurt you bec if you’re like me....I don’t forget those comments.
I have 8 scars on my torso relating to my “reproductive yrs”....I’ve been told that they are beautiful & my warrior scars I carry with me as a badge of honor being called a woman. This philosophy touched me a great deal & I try to view my body differently now. I try to love my scars & even my stomach. Not easy chore!
But yes I agree with above that confidence carries in the bedroom. Even how I stand & my posture shows my partner that “this is me....with scars & a big belly, accept it or not.”
I think self positive talk & a conversation in front of a full length mirror can help. It’s not popular bec we wanto see what we looked like in our 20’s & young. But we’re sooo much wiser now!!
Sidenote: have you looked into corsets? Corsets can make a difference in our shape, posture & how clothes drape on us. There’s so many different types of corsets now, women into tight lacing & corset training for the more serious person. Plus I think they are sexy as hell. But do lots of homework first before you buy; it can make a huge difference.
I hope you get that confidence back you’re searching for!