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Default May 11, 2018 at 10:07 PM
 
Outwardly I would not point to money as the goal. But it does lie underneath it all if one really looks.
We’ve told this T he’s our 4th T we’ve worked with. We’ve also been to a few other T like an initial appt to get a feel for them.
So we’re not brand new to T & our marriage is 24 yo.
Each T gave us something to focus on. One said using “I” statements, then repeating back what we just heard to our SO so words don’t get twisted & we actively listen.
One T used the Gotham?? method.....
It just seems like each T sees something we haven’t tried & that maybe this new thing will help.
I know there’s no magic answer.....bec they all have their own answers.

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