I'm sorry LT that you had this slightly tricky conversation about the request for a Transitional Object being 10% weird. I just want to say though that I am finding it very comforting reading all the replies on this thread. My T gave me a TO even though I didn't ask for one. It really helps me though. So my T would be the one who would be weird, apparently!

I think maybe T's have different approaches to therapy and that maybe it depends where they did their T training or how / which approaches they were trained in etc. My T told me that where he did his training there was a lot of emphasis on the importance of a good therapeutic relationship between T and client (and there are lots of studies to back this up as well). I'm glad as his approach works really well for me. But maybe LT your T was trained in a different way or with a different emphasis on the approach. I'm sure he also learned a lot of good and effective things (and it seems like he is a very good T from what you write here), but perhaps his 10% weird is just reflecting the fact that he wasn't trained in that way, to see giving transitional objects as a helpful part of therapy. Also final thought is that in your shoes I think I would also be slightly put off by his finding my request "10% weird" (!) but glad to know that he is very honest. Because if he wasn being very homnice st with you he could have just dismissed it or said not weird at all. I think it helps me to know that a T is being honest.