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Originally Posted by key tones
This happened to me. We met at grief support group, so both of us had a spouse die at about the same time.
He did that too. I did at first but didn’t feel the need after a while. He never stopped and if anything it got worse.
He was one of those types that was extremely intelligent offset by a lot of incompetence elsewhere. He made a lot of mistakes and I busted him.
The reason he did so much talking about the deceased spouse was a deep dissatisfaction about how I was so unlike her.
I caught him in a lie, and the more he tried to defend it, the more pathetic and ridiculous it became.
There were other problems.
I dumped him.
Anyway, I don’t know if your situation is like mine. Give it time and you will figure it out.
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I'm sorry that had happened to you. It makes me wonder about my situation for sure. My partner only brings up his deceased ex-fiance when trying to relate to me when I speak of my grief about my brother that I lost almost 2 years ago.
I have asked him if he misses the life he had--the excitement and thrills. He admitted that he did, but also that it was so turbulent and he has what he's always wanted in a relationship now, the stability. But I fear that I may be too boring for him or don't have as much mental stimulation that his ex-fiance gave him.
Thank you for sharing.