Totally understand. Do you feel better in shape wear? How about corsets? I know they're not always super comfortable, but some are. They may also help your posture and put a little strut in your step. Those things aren't for everyone, but I love the feeling of all my bits being held in place! I never leave the house without my Thalia shaper.

Besides focusing on downplaying your midsection, play up your full thighs with stockings. Wear tight panties to show off your bum. Amp up the cleavage. Remind yourself of the areas you love.

As to the two men in your life who dropped negativity bombs, let me quote Margaret Cho: "If you're worried about what I look like when you're f***ing me, you shouldn't be f***ing me in the first place!" Last time someone said something about my anatomy that I didn't appreciate, he was fired from his position. Ain't got time for that noise.

My problems are a little farther up, and they are JJs. That may not sound like such a bad thing, but I think they make my otherwise average frame look gigantic. Like you, I don't mind being large, but I don't feel beautiful when I have to go up to a size 14 dress, even if it's just because of my girls. People lust after Jessica Rabbit, but that shape does not feel sexy when it's crammed into clothes meant for normally shaped people. Come to think of it, a personal shopper might be helpful, too.

Best of luck!