I posted a big reply yesterday but it isnt showing today.

From the sounds of it: if I were you, I would start preparing for divorce. Find a good lawyer (especially if you are the only money maker). She could take 1/2 your stuff or more. If your kids are under 18, she could take them. Over? Manipulate them to be like her and hate you.

Someone who loves you would want counseling; it is a cop out that she won’t go because she “knew people in the industry with problems.” Oftentimes, those who have personal experience are the best adept at advising.

Good luck...