Fluff, I was thinking along the same lines as Perna. Maybe a neutral place? A place where if things got bad, you would be safe. A place that doesn't really belong to either of you emotionally?

I have to say honestly that I think your t. needs to be playing a heavy supportive role as you are doing the things that must be done. For ex: discussing terminating marriage, his anger management etc. I'm wondering if you and t. have discussed a potential "plan" for you and the things you need to do. Kind of like a set agenda or "game-plan" to follow. Maybe as you are actually working this plan for managing the time with husband, you could speak with t. daily and report what is happening and what you need help with.




I have a feeling that what I am typing makes a lot more sense in my head than here.I'm sorry. I had a situation last year (w/my daughter) that required this kind of help from my t. I knew there were certain things that had to happen and was very unsure I could see it thru. I would call him each evening and we would go over what had happened that day and how I could have done it differently etc. It was very supportive , but also left me in charge of making the changes. Does any of this apply? If not, I'm sorry.

tulips