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Originally Posted by melangey
I think it's totally fine - just depends on what he's saying.
He's not comparing you to her, is he? Tell him how that makes you feel. Try to remain calm.
In fact, it is OK to tell him that it makes you feel bad. Don't use the word "jealous" because that does have negative connotations. Just explain that it's no different than talking about one of his living/available exes. That "x-factor" often makes someone feel inadequate or second best.
Most of us have (or will) had many relationships and it's never tactful for your partner to go on and on and on about exes.
Try to ASK instead of ACCUSE. He may not realize he's doing it. Or he may think you're ok with it. But encourage him to seek counseling and remind him that YOU are his partner and not his therapist and that it's affecting you.
Good luck.
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It's in relation to my grief. I lost a brother and he's trying to connect to me through his grief of his ex-fiance. It's not completely out of the blue. But, our grief is different.
He recently wrote and read something aloud to me. It was to help me write my letter to my brother that passed, but it didn't really sit well with me. It just made me wonder if he thinks of her often when he and I are together (there was a part in his writing talking about being with me and yet he's reminded of her).
But you're right, I should talk to him about it. I just don't know how to bring it up or if it's not something I should address at all.