For me this only applies to a certain extent and not in the "bread winner" way. I definitely want a guy who either has a job or is currently looking for one, maybe they just got out of school or just got laid off and are in-between, that's acceptable. He doesn't need to end up making more than me, but my income can't support 2 people because it barely supports me and my 2 cats so he needs to be making something. Laziness and excuses upon excuses is extremely unattractive.