you were being manipulated, too young to understand and maybe you were needy at the time it happened. i don't really mean needy in a bad way but you never experienced a good relationship yet so you didn't know any better. we all need love and sometimes we get bad love. it is hard to get out of a relationship, especially a bad one, you never know what the abuser will do next. i've been in relationships where i've seen the red flags and ignorded them because i didn't want to be alone and i thought any love was a good love, which it is not. i was really lonely and had a hard time relating with people so i usually went with guys that would make the first move. this led to me not getting the people i really wanted. great sacrifices here too.good luck.