I have a really hard time staying on topic with my T so recently she's put more pressure on me to stick with what I started talking about, usually something that's really difficult for me to talk about. It makes me frustrated and I feel like walking out of there sometimes because my brain tells me that it isnt a worthwhile conversation to have when it's actually something that I find hard to talk about (and those things are usually the most important and hurtful).
Maybe your T thinks that you need the harsher approach, some of her clients may need that but you could try explaining that that doesn't help you and you want her to be more gentle when you're feeling that way. I need the harsh T approach to get anything done but we aren't all the same so I suggest you tell her how you feel about the session and that you want to take smaller steps. Good luck talking with T