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Originally Posted by crushed_soul
I wish for you to be well, kaorikuran, and empathize immensely.
The following sentences consist of my humble perspectives that are attempts at objective reasoning based on research on numerous interconnected, pertinent topics of which your story seemingly comprises.
After reading your post, he emotionally and psychologically abused, manipulated and used you. Moreover, you are a victim of such abuse, manipulation and use. Some quick examples of his tactics are shifting the blame to you, convincing you of invented guilt, isolating you from others, intermittent reinforcement, neglecting you/your wants/needs/life/interests, and more.
Your story also consists of numerous aspects that are strongly associated with relationships with someone, who is of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NDP.) He may or may not be of NDP and/or other personality disorders. A few instances of such associations are his transiency, his conditioning of you to become addicted to him, his conditioning of you to become dependent on him/his attention and so on, hoovering and more.
Regardless of possible personality disorders, his behavior and actions in general were psychologically and emotionally abusive, manipulative and using. So, not only was this a toxic relationship, he was also abusive.
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Thank you.
Oh... I see. I'm kind of "glad" that he was, because I honestly thought that I was exaggerating with thinking of me as victim of an abusive behavior... Also, the few people I've told about this didn't react like I was, so I started thinking that I was just magnifying the whole situation. As if I had gone crazy...
I suspect that he suffers from a personality disorder. I'm not sure if it's correlated, but I noticed that the way he writes is completely different from how he really is. He writes as if he is insecure, always melancholically, with lots of imprecisions and "......."; when he speaks he is confident, has a strong voice and humor (while if I made a joke while chatting he would take it personally and make me feel guilty for it. I'm someone who fools around a lot, so this was a low blow to my personality). I think he writes like that to make people sympathize with him and "cuddle" him, and to make them aware of how you write in his presence; in other words, another form of control? I'm not sure, honestly.